It all began while they were attending a weekend Marriage Retreat and the facilitator asked the guys to name their wife's favorite flower. One fellow leaned over to his bride and whispered, "I think it's Pillsbury Self-Rising"...that's when the fight started.
So, in that vein, how much do you know about your mate?
"Summertime, and the livn' is easy"...so says the song. Take some time, connect, refresh and renew...of course you have time. Really! What else are you going to do during your travel time to and from your favorite vacation spot? Or, have a stay-cation. Plan a date night (no children allowed). Shut off all devices and talk. Take the Spouse Quiz. Start the conversation and learn something new about each other. No right or wrong answers. "Tell me more; I'm all ears," and "I've got nowhere else to go" Take turns answering. Do you know the answer or do you have to ask? You might be surprised or amazed at what you know and what you don't.
The Spouse Quiz
Do you know your spouse's favorite color? If you answered yes, do you know what it is?
When was the last time your spouse ate a peanut butter and jelly sandwich?
Speaking of sandwiches, how does your spouse feel about BLTs?
Revisiting the topic of peanut butter...if you like PB, do you prefer it chunky or smooth?
How does your spouse get dressed? From top to bottom or bottom to top? (Top meaning putting their bra, blouse, or shirt on first; bottom meaning putting on underwear or socks, then skirt, pants, or shorts first.)
What's your spouse's favorite song?
What is your spouse's eye color?
What radio station does your spouse listen to most?
What is your spouse's favorite flower?
What's your spouse's dream job?
Speaking of sports, do you know if your spouse had a sports hero growing up and who it was?
What is your spouse's dream vacation?
Have any movies ever made your spouse cry? Can you name even one?
What expression does your spouse use most?
How would your spouse dress 24/7 if she could?
What did your spouse eat for lunch yesterday?
Whose email addresses are stored in your spouse's computer's address book?
Whose phone numbers are stored in her cell phone?
What kind of burial preferences does your spouse have?
Has your spouse ever wanted to know how to speak another language? If so, which one?
What's the longest book your spouse has ever read?
What's her favorite book?
Who was her favorite author as a child?
What was her favorite book as a child?
Did his/her parents read him/her bedtime stories?
What were your spouse's parents' names? Bonus if you can name her grandparents
What is your spouse's favorite color?
Who is your spouse's best pal?
What is your spouse's favorite meal?
What is your spouse's favorite restaurant?
If you took your wedding vows with the utmost sincerity and have been staunchly committed to faith and family, it's still possible to fall into trouble when you don't grow and change with your spouse throughout your marriage. You need to continually "update" your knowledge about your spouse.
That is why it is so important that you and your spouse continue to learn about each other throughout your marriage. Lifelong learning about your spouse requires time, communication, persistence, imagination, patience and ... did we mention time? Unless you create some space in your schedules to have these conversations, it won't happen.
I'm busy working on my blog posts. Watch this space!